Manifest instant happiness

The first step towards a better improved version of yourself is to allow your authenticity to shine. Which I’m sure you’re fully aware is rather difficult when you’re not 100% honest with yourself or others.

And that can be for various reasons. Whether we don’t want to see the ugly in us or we don’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings by speaking up. While I understand both and have been there myself, it hasn’t done me any justice when I didn’t accept my own flaws or just ignored someone simply because I didn’t want to come across as too brusque.

And guess what happens when there is a lack of acceptance or we refuse to confront a situation? It makes us just downright miserable. It stews and festers until we completely lose it on ourselves or even worse, subject someone else to our wrath.

So, then what’s the solution? It’s pretty simple. We take charge of our lives. Without this courage to own who we are, we’ll always fall prey to what’s lacking.

You may be saying that you need action steps and fret not. Take a look at the list below and see what resonates with you.

  1. OWN ALL OF YOU- Don’t just see the good things about yourself. Take those rose tinted glasses off! To truly find happiness, you need to accept everything about yourself, which means both the good and the bad. Authenticity is the first step to happiness. So what if you get a little too angry at times?!? So what if you can be a little too dogmatic?!? So what if you procrastinate?!? These shouldn’t be deal breakers with yourself because you’re in a relationship with yourself. Your number one job is to love yourself unconditionally. Which brings me to the next one.

  2. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND- The fact of the matter is that the person that you’re going to have the longest relationship with is yourself. So, why the heck not enjoy your own company completely as you are? While it may seem like a cheesy concept, it’s the reality of our lives. If we can’t enjoy and relish ourselves for who we are, how can we expect the same of others? No one but ourselves needs our own validation and approval more than us. Once we attain it, the mirage of the external world ceases to exist.

  3. EMBRACE YOUR EMOTIONS- This can be a bit daunting. As a child, I was taught to repress and compartmentalize my emotions, so I did. The worst part was, when I got older, if I cursed when I got angry, I was told by numerous people that I wasn’t ladylike. Then if I cried, I was told by the same numerous people, that I was being too emotional of a woman. See how this goes? You’re gonna be damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Not everyone is going to approve of you all of the time so you might as well just be the person you know deep down you are. If you need a good yell, cry, or laugh, just do it. Our feelings and emotions aren’t unwarranted. No matter what anyone says. You know what you need to do. No one else does.

  4. SPEAK UP- So, they’re getting a little tougher as we carry on. But, it’s the only way that we can truly be happy. Yes, it’s much easier to ignore the text from the ex who wants to apologize from what him/she did five years ago. But how many times has someone from your much needed past attempted to make a comeback and you ignored them only to be so annoyed that you didn’t speak up when you had the opportunity? The operative word here is opportunity. I’m sure that others would argue a response from you is a vehicle for continuing into a past situation, but I’m saying that it’s providing you with the much needed release that you’ve been holding onto for much too long. You don’t have to rip someone a new one. But speaking up about how much pain they inflicted upon you will garner you with a sense of empowerment. The quicker that you speak up and release the negativity, the quicker you take back your power.

  5. FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION- You didn’t think that I’d leave this off of the list, did ya?!? This sounds a bit cliche, but it’s said on numerous occasions for a reason. After all, our gut has been scientifically been proven to be our second brain. So, what does this have to do with happiness? If your gut is telling you that something is off, it’s because you need to listen to it. Same goes if your gut is telling you to go for something. This will dramatically increase or decrease your happiness. The more you hone in on what your gut is saying, the more you trust yourself. The more you trust yourself, the more inevitability of your happiness.

Follow this guide as your go to source for claiming your happiness starting now. The more you apply these facets into your life, the likelier that you will increase your bliss. And I know. Because it’s worked for me.

Share this with anyone who may be struggling to find their joy or who could just use a little extra dose of authenticity in their lives.

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